Fathers’ day takes revenge. After being neglected for a long time, nowadays, for commercial reasons or because women no longer keep quiete and demand the collaboration from their partner, fathers have no other choice but to take an active roll at home. And thus fathers day s an excellent occasion to celebrate this fact. From the time when the child takes the first steps on the sitting room carpet until he steps out to the roughness of the labouring world, fathers keep the rhythm and establish rules until their son/daughter achieves his/her own independence from them. The more it was balanced and qualified the amount of time dedicated to his children, the more they will be successful in life. Those parents who focus mainly on building a large fortune as the best thing to give their children make a huge mistake. The best thing is LOVE and it can not be bought.
From the time women venture into less traditional careers like teaching and selling whatsoever in their free times, time dedicated by them to their household has changed, and when there are children to grow and educate, the roll of both of them could be of great educational value or catastrophic. If daddy arrives very tired and gives his son a “be quiete” for an answer to his many and innocent “questions requiring answers”, he is toiling on the road to solitude which will reveal fatal in adolescence when his child needs to count on a present and ready for anything father. When he is presently absent children look for a substitute of this model –guide- they are missing and sometimes find the paternal figure in a friend or a school mate getting to situations of singular friendships. Many mothers with the omnipotence delirium think they can educate their children on by themselves, and they do not realize that rolls in the educational field are two: one complements the other and no one replaces the other. The fact of giving birth to children has mistakenly made mothers owners of the fruit of both parents. But every day the number of fathers who claim the right to full paternity is growing. Specialists point out that fathers, like mothers are models of identification for their children during their development, thus they learn to become men and women utilizing their father, mother or other close figure to them as models to imitate and resemble in the future. It is through these intense relations with important adults in their lives that children learn and begin to develop ways of relating to the opposite sex. Mothers usually spend more time caring for the physical aspects of children and enphasizing self control. Fathers’ roll is fundamental to teach their children to master their character and handle frustration. While mothers tend to put restrictions, fathers are inclined to help them become more independent. Fathers help them learn new tasks by themselves and to explore the environment. Sometimes they help them to step out into the labouring world which was their own already. If this happens in relation with the likings and aptitudes of their children everything is ok. Problems arise when parents try to have their children do what they wanted without success. It is best to handle and work hard behind our own frustrations and let our children walk their own road. After all that is why we help them to take their first steps and walk on their own on the jungle of our society!